Admitting How Bad Things Are, Knowing How Good They Could Be
Why It Is Vital To Admit How Bad Things Are
- AUTHOR- Charles Myriel
Why It Is Vital To Admit How Bad Things Are
Jimmy was 12 when he broke his arm on the playground. When he went home, his mom told him it wasn’t that bad and did not take him to the hospital or doctor to get it set properly and heal. As a result, he suffered with pain as his bones healed improperly. Later he had to go to a medical professional for the bone to be broken intentionally so that it could be reset and healed. Until that happened, he suffered.
In order for us as individuals to heal, and for our culture and society to heal, we have to admit how bad things are. If we don’t have the context of what is helpful, and what is harmful, we will continue to get sicker and sicker. Having context of what is healthy is what allows us to strive for something more. The challenge is that many people give up and believe that a free society is unachievable, that resistance is futile.
Many people believe that books like Brave New World and 1984 predict a scary totalitarian future and are cautionary themes of what is yet to come. What many people fail to see in these books are in many ways actual depictions of what is happening today. We live in a world where there is no real privacy. Even if you try to use software that can increase your privacy, the hardware itself likely is compromised. The level of sophistication needed to achieve a real sense of privacy is just not attainable to most people. Heads of state often have their hardware compromised by other nation states.
The lack of privacy is much more sinister than many people care to admit. It is used to collect information to shape people’s perspectives on the world, but ultimately is a demoralization tool. Most of us allow social media and individuals on the internet to shape our view of the world. Prior to the internet, people relied on newspapers, books, and the television. All of these mediums can be and are controlled. The internet is very different because it can give people personalized views on the world depending on what their values and interests are.
Big tech can mine data in order to personalize individuals’ views on the world and that is why your experience and view on things can be so radically different than your neighbor. In 2020, during the lockdowns, families and communities were torn apart and divided as a result of this. Parts of the population believed that Covid 19 was the most dangerous illness ever to hit humanity, and considered their neighbors and family members toxic bioweapons that would kill them. Others believed that it was all a scam and that PCR nose swabs were implanting microchips inside your nose.
Determining the truth was incredibly difficult. It generally is difficult if not impossible to verify what is true because all we can rely on the majority of times is both what we are seeing in the real world, but also what we are told by others or see online. We are rapidly moving towards a world where it is safe to assume that everything we see on the internet is completely fabricated.
🔥 How I broke the internet today and what lessons can we learn from it? #Crowdstrike 🧐
— Vincent Flibustier 👽 (@vinceflibustier) July 19, 2024
Several things that make it a good fake that worked: 👇
1. No culprit named yet, I bring it on a platter, people like to have a culprit.
2- The culprit seems completely stupid, he is proud… pic.twitter.com/JFJ2MEYNMQ
People at their core are ungovernable because they are self interested. The ruling class’ ambitions generally are counter to that of the individual, but for them to accomplish their goals, they need to pacify the population. This is why democracy is such a wonderful way to co opt people, because it gives them the illusion that they have a choice, or power to make changes when they really don’t. The political process is a way to corrupt the individual, and get them to engage in incredibly unproductive activities.
It is very important for the ruling class’ ability to control the population that individuals know they are being surveilled. In tightly controlled countries like North Korea, or the Soviet Republics, surveillance was done by people. Examples were made and relationships were completely broken down as no one could trust each other. Someone’s spouse might be a informer, and therefore you could not discuss or share any subversive ideas without taking on enormous risk to yourself. Children were taught in schools to inform on their parents in order to subvert the family.
Today there are some of those themes in our communities, but ultimately the internet connected device is the informer, having the possibility to constantly listen to us. Most of us carry them everywhere we go and the threat of someone listening has a major influence over people in what they say and do. Just knowing in the back of your head that your FBI agent is watching casts a dark shadow over society. Eliminating privacy is one of the biggest attacks on the individual and is all done under the belief that the individual is a criminal that needs to be controlled. KYC and AML laws start from the premise that people are guilty, have zero rights to self determination, and therefore are able to be abused.
Mass surveillance is primarily a conditioning tool, more so than just a collection of data to control tool. When people know they are being watched, they behave differently. It stifles creativity and creates and attitude of compliance and conformity. If you knew that a law would not or could not be enforced, you would likely not follow it. But if you believed someone was watching you and could arbitrarily enforce it, most people would follow it, even if they disagreed with it.
What needs to be understood is the sinister nature which is the ruling classes’ need to break down individuals, families, and community structures that promote the individual. We need to understand that there are people intentionally trying to hurt us in order to control us. I could go on for a while discussing the nature of this, but the point of this article is not to black pill the reader.
There is damage being done to us every day. The Covid 19 lockdowns are something that almost all individuals around the world experienced to some degree, and yet there is very little discussion of how to recover from it. In many ways, this was a turning point where surveillance, government power to abuse the individual, and propaganda accelerated. At the same time, it was a catalyst for many individuals to realize the importance of personal responsibility and how deranged the people who are supposed to be experts are.
Unfortunately things are much worse than what I listed above, but now I want to talk about why any of this important.
Knowing How Good They Could Be
I want to present to you the reality in which you wake up in the morning with a sense of purpose and meaning. You are surrounded by friends who care deeply about you and want to see you successful. Instead of feeling a sense of instability, you are secure in who you are because your financial circumstances are stable, but also because you know that if anything happens, people will take care of you. Instead of being black pilled, walking around hypervigilant because the people around you are threats, you have a positive outlook on the world and the future. You believe that you can have kids, and their future will be better than yours.
One of the challenges which makes healing from the societal trauma that we are subjected to is that it is a community based activity, requiring trust in other people. Trauma is being weaponized in an attempt to separate us from each other. We cannot heal on our own. No matter how much you read, or try to work on yourself, unless you can be vulnerable with another person in a community setting, there will not be much meaningful progress.
We are social creatures and secrets eat at us and destroy us. Unless you can share who you are with the people around you fully, without self censoring or hiding parts of yourself, you cannot truly be free. This does not necessarily mean broadcasting every bit about yourself to everyone around you, but it does mean having at least some individuals in your life that you can share the deepest parts about yourself with. The reality is that unless you truly show yourself to another person, you will never experience true love.
We are conditioned to wear disguises in order to get recognition from the people around us, and doing this long enough will cause us to forget who we truly are. If people applaud our disguises, while it may feel gratifying in the moment, damage is being done because at our core we know that they are not applauding who we truly are. Thoughts like, “If they only knew who I truly am, they would find me disgusting,” may go through our heads. Living with that type of shame will ultimately create dysfunction in our lives and relationships.
We need community to heal because people are mirrors. Some people are better mirrors than others. Someone who has a good sense of who they are, and has good self awareness can be an excellent mirror. Most of us carry deep burdens of shame of the things that we have done or were done to us. We see these as disqualifiers of real authentic relationships. So when we refuse to allow people in and hide things, people will mirror back a distorted image of who we are. It is not until you find someone who is safe, and share with them everything, that real healing can begin. We need others to do this for us, because we cannot ourselves see an accurate image of ourselves on our own.
The things that we are embarrassed by, in the right setting with the right person, can be qualifiers of real relationships. Our pain is the thing that can allow us to have empathy and relate to each other. The shame can be a bridge to real authentic connection instead of a disqualifier, but vulnerability is risky. We hide things from others because often times they are our deepest wounds that in telling another person, could be used to inflict more damage. If we tell someone something painful, and then they break our trust by telling others or ridiculing us, we can be a lot of worse off then where we started. This is the fear that plays through our heads preventing us from achieving meaningful connection with each other.
That is why it is vital to be able to identify who is safe. If we have experienced abuse, and I would argue we all have living in an extremely sick society, our ideas on safe individuals can be and will be completely warped, mostly because we were never taught the meaning of this. Building trust with others takes time, and trial and error.
Here are a series of strategies I suggest for identifying safe people:
- -Look for people who are comfortable with themselves
- -Look for people who have gone through healing themselves
- -Look for people who have healthy relationships
- -Look for people who are secure with who they are
- -Look for individuals are not concerned with conformity
This is a topic I will look to expand on in the future, and likely could be a best selling book if I put my mind to it. The world needs safe individuals because the world desperately needs healing. One of the reasons I choose to write for Ungovernable Misfits is because I have grown to trust Jon and Max. I believe that their intentions are to truly be helpful and to empower the individual. I have tested them by sharing bits and pieces about myself, and have not been betrayed.
They have also reciprocated by sharing things with me about themselves that allow me to trust them. Vulnerability and connection is a two way street that requires both parties to cooperate. The problem with many professional clinical settings is that there is an inherent power dynamic which makes trust difficult. The layman will always be the best equipped because when we interact with peers instead of an authority figure, there are not power dynamics. That is not to say that professional clinicians should be avoided but the human spirit is healed when it is seen and known. Therapists are only an imitation of the healing nature of a real relationship with another human being, and as a result are limited. They can be a helpful starting point for teaching you how to relate with another person, but cannot be the end all be all.
I believe that there is a future in which individuals can share truthfully with each other, and strive to make a healthy society. Even as the world around us becomes crazier and more detached from reality, we can form communities of individuals built on trust and cooperation with each other.
Drop Your Burden
Yes the world is fucked up, and it is important to know to some extent how fucked up it is. This is incredibly important context because unless you can identify what is wrong, there is no way to identify what is healthy and good. Normalizing the unhelpful themes in our cultures will only perpetuate them, but identifying them, grieving them, and striving for healthy alternatives is the path forward.
When the foundation on a house is crumbling, the answer is not to build a shiny facade. It is to fix the foundation, and then build back on top of it. If you have lived your whole life with dysfunction as a result of shame and pain, doing something like this can and will feel earth shattering. Many people do not have the courage to go through the process of healing until things get so difficult that change is the only option and the dysfunction becomes unignorable.
I believe we are that place as a society right now as the fiat monetary system is breaking. Individuals who have tried to believe that what we are experiencing is normal and good are being faced with the reality that the people they put their trust in are not the good guys. They are coming to realize that the institutions and causes they supported did not have their best interests in mind, and that there is a coordinated effort to make them sick.
I believe the answer is not to build guillotines and perpetuate the anger, but is to empower the individual so that the people who have attempted to abuse and control us are not given the power to repeat what has happened again. Yes we have to defend ourselves at times, but this is not a kinetic battle. It is a deeply spiritual one. The decisions we make have massive impacts, and the commitment to heal will have positive repercussions through the whole universe.
We don’t need to run around black pilling people. People will find out how bad things are one way or another without our help. We can name things for context, but the context is only necessarily for explaining what is possible. Having real connections with other people, and seeking to build each other up and inspire each other is how we make any meaningful progress.
This does not require the cooperation of the rest of society. We don’t need everyone to be safe and go through the process of healing in order to make meaningful progress for ourselves and families.The people who are willing to will be examples for others. The most effective sales pitch is to actually live out what you are trying to sell to others and being the change you want to be in the world.
If you want to find people who are trustworthy, first you have to be someone that is trustworthy. Instead of lashing out when you feel hurt, sit with the pain. Identify and name it, and observe it. Why are you feeling hurt and scared? Now how can you deal with in a productive manner instead of separating yourself from the people around you. Share what you are experiencing with someone you trust. If you believe that someone actually cares about you, explain how something may have been hurtful, instead of trying to hurt them back. Resentment and revenge are not productive activities, and will ultimately hurt you more than you could hope to hurt others.
Any pain that is assigned meaning and purpose is not just endurable, but could bring you a new sense of purpose and meaning. Depression that seems to have no meaning will be consuming and destructive to the human spirit. This is why the victim mentality is so dangerous. When you can see that your pain can actually be a bridge instead of a barrier, it will completely change your life for the better.
The revolution is not ideological. It is not about converting people to be a certain way, talk a certain way, or even think a certain way. It is about lifting each other up and connecting with each other. When people have self confidence and value themselves, they will also value each other, likely will come to the conclusions that many of us believe about freedom. The belief in the necessity of the ruling class to dictate what is allowed, and coerce you if you break arbitrary rules is a belief stemming from low self esteem. The belief that individuals have agency, are not dumb, and are responsible for themselves is one of empowerment.
I hope you experience the freedom that results from deep meaningful connection with others. To allow someone to love all you, not just the parts you curate out of self defense. Until you reveal all of yourself, you will not be able to truly experience love. The freedom that will be experienced as a result of this is earth shattering. It has the ability to heal even the most jaded and demoralized spirit. It has the power to change the world.
